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Cofounder Conflict Methodology

The core teaching frameworks Jason uses in cofounder conflict coaching — drawn from Gottman relationship science, Gallup partnership research, narrative therapy, and original synthesis. These are the tools that power the "Back in Business" program, moving cofounders from gridlocked, repetitive fights to productive dialogue by treating the cofounder relationship as core business infrastructure that requires active maintenance, not just damage control when things break. The underlying premise across all of these frameworks is that cofounder relationships and romantic relationships share a fundamental architecture — both require chemistry, mutual trust, commitment through hard times, and the ability to repair after conflict — which means the robust, well-replicated research on marriages and long-term partnerships transfers directly to two founders who have put their professional lives in each other's hands.

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cofounder-gottman-framework — The Gottman Framework Applied (8 Lessons). John and Julie Gottman's relationship science, translated for the cofounder context. Covers the Four Horsemen, perpetual vs. solvable conflict, the 5:1 ratio, repair after fights, and how to build friendship as relationship infrastructure — not just manage conflict.

cofounder-partnership-elements — The 8 Elements of a Successful Partnership (Gallup). Gallup's research on what distinguishes high-functioning two-person teams from struggling ones, structured as a diagnostic assessment. Covers complementary strengths, shared mission, fairness, trust, acceptance, forgiveness, communication, and unselfishness — with examples from Buffett/Munger, Jobs/Wozniak, and Jason's own coaching practice.

cofounder-recurring-conflicts — Recognizing and Addressing Recurring Conflict Patterns. Two companion frameworks for diagnosing why the same fights keep happening: "Old Wounds and Old Ways" (the interaction between emotional triggers and ingrained behavioral habits) and "Stop Trying to Fix Your Cofounder" (the externalization reframe from narrative therapy). Includes the Two-Conversation Protocol and the 6-Step Externalization Protocol.

cofounder-heart-to-heart — The Founder Heart-to-Heart. The single highest-leverage habit change in cofounder conflict work: a weekly, 30-minute one-on-one meeting about the relationship, not the business. Covers the five conversation zones (gratitude, stress, questions and puzzles, hopes and dreams), why it works, and how to make it stick.

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